Old Lady Up the Street

Do you remember the old lady up the street? She was either your Mom's age, or your aunt's. Wait, she might have been closer to your grandmother. You know, another generation, one who lived through wars and history you've read about in books. Even now, though you're grown yourself, she's someone of another time, another era. Past her prime, so to speak.

She had white hair, almost never wore shorts, worked in her lovely little garden. Probably had doilies on her coffee table. And Canada Pink Wintergreen Mints. You'd see her walking around or puttering in her yard, but the thought of inviting her over, or visiting her for anything other than fund raising (she was always ready to support the schools or your charity) or to ask, "Have you seen our dog?" never occurred to you. Nothing against her; you just wouldn't have anything to talk about.

You're busy working, raising your kids, doing tons of laundry, making meals, volunteering at school or church, reading bedtime stories, cleaning the house, going to meetings, playing sports with the guys, living life in America. The old lady up the street is so yesterday, not even on your radar. You do wave occasionally, but when she passes on, you'll probably just send a card, or maybe attend the funeral. She was nice, as far as you knew, but the loss won't be personal. She wasn't really in your life. You never really knew her.

Did you know she liked to laugh hard most every day? Her husband often shook his head and smiled in amazement at her silly ways and goofy antics, so much like her own Mom. She loved sarcasm and irony, and those who used it well. Though not a gutter mouth in any way, her sometimes risque words could set people aback, coming from her mouth. She also could swear a blue streak when provoked, though not often, but she usually managed to control it. Yet from that same heart and mouth came wonderful prayers and praise, fully believed.

She knew she talked too much, so sometimes she'd just write down her thoughts to keep them private, but not forgotten. She'd express her rage, her sorrows, her hopes, her regrets, but no one read them. But still, she laughed at it all.

And she grew old. And she grew braver. And she grew stronger. She decided that it was time to stop keeping it all inside, so she wrote a book. Maybe someone would read it.

Since her hair began to turn white at age 19, she never dyed it. Men clearly thought it was sexy on a young woman, so it stayed till she grew into it. A good judge of female anatomy, she decided her own legs were a C-, so she stuck to longer pants, only revealing the good parts. And at 60, she knew she still had amazingly good parts. Men were still trying to "pick her up" in her mid fifties. She knew how to grow things, gardening like the pro her father had taught her to be. And her own coffee table? She rarely even dusted it.

For now, she watches the kids in the neighborhood grow up, sometimes praying for what she suspects they'll need in life. She waves at and speaks to the neighbors when she sees them. She truly likes them, and has no regrets that she's not in their lives. They're so young; they have life to live. They'll be fine without her.

But she recalls the old ladies from her past, all those old "boring" women whom she ignored in her own youth. "They're old!" "They're boring!" "What could they teach me that matters?" What a sad loss. So much she could have learned.

She still likes those pink Canada mints, but hasn't had one in years. Maybe someone will set out a bowl at her funeral.